How to Deal with A Cheating Spouse

This is a very tough situation to deal with. Finding out about an affair the one you love has had is very traumatic. Then to deal with your feelings and what you want to happen next. Don’t make any rash decisions. You need take a few days to decide what your are planning to do. Make sure to not blame yourself for what your spouse has done. It is in no way your fault for them straying away from your relationship.
    1) Make sure to inform your spouse of their infidelity. You want to do this in private and where you will not be interrupted.
    2) Express your feelings. Don’t hold anything back. Ask them if the affair is over.
You need to state to them they have to be honest about the affair and how they feel too. You both need to decide if the relationship is worth saving or not.
    3) Make sure to take some time away for yourself. You might want to try a separation. Maybe stay with a family member or friend till you are able to see things clearly.
    4) Talk to your spouse about how to deal with the affair. Let them know what you want and expect from them now since they have to work toward gaining your trust and respect once more. Together both of you have to decide how to move forward.
    5)Tell your spouse what your expectations are and make sure they understand what they need to do to regain your trust. You will not accept anything less than that.
    6) Decide if couples or marriage counseling is what you both need to help you get past the affair.
    7) You have to learn to forgive and move on if you want to continue the relationship. If you don’t want to continue the relationship, you need to think about separating or getting a divorce. That is totally a different subject.
    I hope anyone who is going through this type of situation is able to move on from the experience a little smart on what is best for you. The whole thing is to know what is the best for you. Do you want to stay in the relationship or is time for you to move and find someone who will truly love you the way you deserve to be loved? I have went through this situation. My ex-husband had an affair, but it was more to that. You see not only was it sexual, but it was also emotionally. It took me a long time to finally move forward and away from that relationship, but I have and I am better for it. So to all I wish the best of luck and to remind you to love yourself.

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Education Options for the 21st Century Family

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There are so many choices for us to choose from in the world today. You can choose from different kinds of food, cars, homes, jobs, furniture, and pets, etc.  However for your children’s education, you have to really consider what your options are. Research and talk to people about what you can do with your child’s education. Find families that are using these educational options.
    There is a growing movement of parents choosing home schooling rather than regular traditional public schooling. Many parents out there are staying home and schooling their kids. You also can look into boarding school, private school or maybe a charter school. They even are now developing an online school for K-12.
    Your child’s education is a personal decision you have to make which fits you and your child and the situation you maybe in at the moment. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you can’t change it later. Meaning if you start your child home schooling then have to put them in public school. It  is your decision. It has to be what is right for your child and you at the time just like the reverse could be said for public school kids becoming home schooled.
    What I am suggesting is you look at all your options. Talk to other families who are using anyone of these options. Get the facts straight to make your choice. In the end your child and you have to be happy with what you decide to do when they are finally old enough to be schooled whether they stay at home, or go to public, or private schools. You also have to make sure your child is being challenged enough in what they do. Don’t forget that kids also need to learn about socialization so take the time and really consider what your child’s education plans will be.

Dating, And Divorce

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Dating Again and Breaking the News to the Kids

     What I would like to discuss right now is when is the right time to talk to your kids about you dating again after the divorce. This subject is very hard to discuss for both parents and children alike. When is the right time to start dating again and how the children will take the fact that you are ready to move on with your life?
    Parents have to learn when is the right time for them to start dating again and if dating again is really what they want to do. I remember when I separate from my ex-husband, I really wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. It was a difficult time, but I know I didn’t want to be with him.
    Children have to learn to deal with their parents not being together any longer. They also have to deal with their parents seeing other people. My kids were still very young, but they knew daddy wasn’t going to be around all the time and I had to explain as best as I could that they would still see their dad. Just that we were not going to live with him any longer. It can be a very, difficult transition, but if you talk to your kids and give yourself the right amount of time for you to heal from your divorce then you should be able to handle whatever is thrown at you.
    Make sure to always talk to your kids and keep the line of communication always open. You have to understand the best way to handle each individual child because they are all different and age can also effect how you tell your kids and what you tell your kids. Ask your kids to tell you how they are feeling about you going out and meeting people again. You have to make sure that they understand you are not replacing your spouse, but wanting someone to help you enjoy the life you have now. Tell them this decision will not take you away from them. They will always be your first priority. Make sure to always let them know you love me and that it will never change. You always have to make sure they feel secure in the life they have and nothing will ever change.
    Don’t let them run your love life though. If you’re not careful, kids can be very manipulative especially if they feel something is wrong or feel insecure about the whole situation. Make sure you always to talk to your kids and make plenty of time to spend with them so they know nothing has changed. In the end it is what you decide to do just make sure it is the best decision for you and your children.

Private Daycare or Daycare Center?

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Choosing a Daycare Facility/ Daycare Provider

    There are plenty of things you need to look at when searching for a daycare center or a private daycare provider while you are at work. The decision of who will watch over your child can be very straining to a parent. I mean really who can you count on to take care of your child just like you would. If you could get a family member to help you out, it would be a perfect scenario for you. Normally though not many family members can really help out because they have their own things to take care of so you need to look into a private daycare or daycare center(Example: Kindercare).
    The first question you should figure out is do you want a daycare center or a private provider? You should check out as many daycares as you can to make comparisons to help with your decision. But once you make the decision of daycare center or private provider, it will help narrow your search. Remember a daycare center will have stricter state standards and quite a few kids(which means more of a chance of your child catch a cold.) A private daycare is done from someone’s home, the atmosphere is more warm and homey and it means smaller amount of kids in the home.
    Next you should make appointments to check out the facilities. You need to see if the facility is clean, how many on staff, how many kids are enrolled, if they are state certified, if they are flexible about the times for drop off or pick, what they do in case of an emergency, sick child policy, what kind of activities and structured activities does the center provide, what kind of meals and snacks they provide and you can ask about pricing and it works. You can also ask for a reference list so that you can call some of the parents that bring their children there so you can personally ask them how they feel about this facility.
    I personally preferred a private provider. It wasn’t as big and I didn’t want my child getting lost in all the other kids. I like the warm environment of the home, but my kids didn’t stay too long in an outside daycare. I later found someone who helped me with watching my kids while I worked.
    In the end it is really up to you on where you want to take your child. So really look into it and make sure to go with your gut. It will always be right for you. One last tip, look into your local child care council. They can help in finding you a daycare provider or center you will love. They can also help pay for it depending on how much money you make especially since daycares can be pretty expense so please take the time and check out your local child care council. Happy hunting!!!!!

Jarred VS Homemade Baby Food

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Homemade Baby Food VS Jarred Baby Food?


    There are many questions parents face today when they are dealing with their babies. Shots, no shots, spanking, no spanking, bottle or breast, which doctor to see, when to go back to work or maybe stay home with your child, searching for the right daycare provider, schooling, and family help, however what I want to talk about is baby food. Should you feed your baby homemade or jarred baby food?
    By the time your child is 4 to 6 months old, you start to think about what kinds of foods you want to feed your child. If jarred or homemade baby food is the best way for you to go? You really need to weigh your options to make an informed decision. In the end you will be making a choice which will be right for you and your child.
    Many mothers out there choose to feed their babies jarred food which is a normal choice. It is quick and easy to find a jar in the grocery store and just pop it in the microwave. Then you are ready to feed your baby. But you are forced to choose between  brands and kinds of food you want to feed your child.
    A lot of moms don’t have the time with their busy schedules so whatever you choose to do, make sure it’s easier on you. I had chosen jarred food for my first child. It made things a lot easier for me at the time and I was a new mom so I didn’t know much difference. This was the choice I made for my first child, but once I had my next child I had decided I wanted to try my hand at homemade baby food. What I want to do is give you another option, you could look at.
    Homemade baby food has become really popular in the last few years. It saves you money and it is a lot healthier. You know exactly what goes into the baby food you make. You don’t have to worry about serving your child unwanted preservatives. You really don’t have to make something different than what you are eating at that meal. Of course the first few months you will introducing one food at a time. It will be pureed to a mush so your child can eat it.
    I fed my daughter and twins homemade baby food and honestly it was the easy thing and healthiest thing I did for them. You got to remember whatever you choose to make. Make sure it is the right choice for you and your child.