Dating Again and Breaking the News to the Kids
What I would like to discuss right now is when is the right time to talk to your kids about you dating again after the divorce. This subject is very hard to discuss for both parents and children alike. When is the right time to start dating again and how the children will take the fact that you are ready to move on with your life?
Parents have to learn when is the right time for them to start dating again and if dating again is really what they want to do. I remember when I separate from my ex-husband, I really wasn’t sure what I wanted to do. It was a difficult time, but I know I didn’t want to be with him.
Children have to learn to deal with their parents not being together any longer. They also have to deal with their parents seeing other people. My kids were still very young, but they knew daddy wasn’t going to be around all the time and I had to explain as best as I could that they would still see their dad. Just that we were not going to live with him any longer. It can be a very, difficult transition, but if you talk to your kids and give yourself the right amount of time for you to heal from your divorce then you should be able to handle whatever is thrown at you.
Make sure to always talk to your kids and keep the line of communication always open. You have to understand the best way to handle each individual child because they are all different and age can also effect how you tell your kids and what you tell your kids. Ask your kids to tell you how they are feeling about you going out and meeting people again. You have to make sure that they understand you are not replacing your spouse, but wanting someone to help you enjoy the life you have now. Tell them this decision will not take you away from them. They will always be your first priority. Make sure to always let them know you love me and that it will never change. You always have to make sure they feel secure in the life they have and nothing will ever change.
Don’t let them run your love life though. If you’re not careful, kids can be very manipulative especially if they feel something is wrong or feel insecure about the whole situation. Make sure you always to talk to your kids and make plenty of time to spend with them so they know nothing has changed. In the end it is what you decide to do just make sure it is the best decision for you and your children.
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