How to Deal with A Cheating Spouse

This is a very tough situation to deal with. Finding out about an affair the one you love has had is very traumatic. Then to deal with your feelings and what you want to happen next. Don’t make any rash decisions. You need take a few days to decide what your are planning to do. Make sure to not blame yourself for what your spouse has done. It is in no way your fault for them straying away from your relationship.
    1) Make sure to inform your spouse of their infidelity. You want to do this in private and where you will not be interrupted.
    2) Express your feelings. Don’t hold anything back. Ask them if the affair is over.
You need to state to them they have to be honest about the affair and how they feel too. You both need to decide if the relationship is worth saving or not.
    3) Make sure to take some time away for yourself. You might want to try a separation. Maybe stay with a family member or friend till you are able to see things clearly.
    4) Talk to your spouse about how to deal with the affair. Let them know what you want and expect from them now since they have to work toward gaining your trust and respect once more. Together both of you have to decide how to move forward.
    5)Tell your spouse what your expectations are and make sure they understand what they need to do to regain your trust. You will not accept anything less than that.
    6) Decide if couples or marriage counseling is what you both need to help you get past the affair.
    7) You have to learn to forgive and move on if you want to continue the relationship. If you don’t want to continue the relationship, you need to think about separating or getting a divorce. That is totally a different subject.
    I hope anyone who is going through this type of situation is able to move on from the experience a little smart on what is best for you. The whole thing is to know what is the best for you. Do you want to stay in the relationship or is time for you to move and find someone who will truly love you the way you deserve to be loved? I have went through this situation. My ex-husband had an affair, but it was more to that. You see not only was it sexual, but it was also emotionally. It took me a long time to finally move forward and away from that relationship, but I have and I am better for it. So to all I wish the best of luck and to remind you to love yourself.

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